Japan Dining Etiquette for First-Time Visitors

Dining etiquette in Japan might seem a bit intimidating at first, especially if you’ve never traveled to Asia before. But don’t worry—locals are generally understanding if you’re polite and trying your best. That said, here are some things I wish I had known before dining in Japan.

What to Expect When Dining Out in Japan

If it's your first time in Japan, you might be surprised by how quiet some restaurants are—especially small, local spots. Japanese dining culture often values calm, considerate behavior, so it’s good to be mindful of your surroundings. Whether you’re at a ramen shop, izakaya, sushi bar, or convenience store counter seat, here are some basic do’s and don’ts.

Do’s:

• 🍜 Slurp your noodles (yes, really!): Slurping isn’t rude in Japan—it’s actually a compliment to the chef and a way to cool down hot noodles. I felt awkward doing it at first, but you’ll quickly get used to it.
• 🙏 Say "Itadakimasu" and "Gochisousama": Before eating, say “Itadakimasu” (kind of like “bon appétit”). After you finish, say “Gochisousama deshita” to thank the chef or staff. Locals might not expect tourists to say it, but they’ll probably smile if you do.
• 🍶 Use both hands when receiving or giving something: Especially when someone hands you a small plate, glass, or gift, use two hands. It’s a subtle gesture of respect.
• 🥢 Use the back end of your chopsticks to take food from shared plates: If you're sharing dishes with others (especially in izakayas), don’t use the end you eat from. Flip your chopsticks and use the opposite end to grab food.
• 🧻 Expect tissues or wet towels, not napkins: Most restaurants give you a wet towel (oshibori) before the meal. Use it to clean your hands, not your face.
• 💰 Pay at the register: In many places, you pay at the counter instead of at your table. Look for a sign or ask if you’re unsure.

Don’ts:

• ❌ Don’t stick chopsticks upright in rice: This is done only at funerals and is considered bad luck. Always lay them flat or place them on a chopstick rest.
• ❌ Don’t pass food chopstick-to-chopstick: Again, this resembles a funeral ritual, so avoid doing this when sharing food. Use the communal chopsticks or the back of your own.
• ❌ Don’t pour your own drink in a group setting: If you’re out with others and drinking, it's polite to pour drinks for each other. You refill someone else's glass, and they’ll refill yours.
• ❌ Don’t tip: Tipping isn’t a part of Japanese culture and can even be seen as rude. Great service is expected and included in the price.
• ❌ Don’t talk on your phone: Keep your phone on silent and avoid talking on it while eating in public. I made this mistake once, and even though no one said anything, I definitely got the look.
• ❌ Don’t point with your chopsticks: It’s considered impolite to point at things with your chopsticks. Use your hand or a finger instead.

Other Tips:

• Water or tea is usually free and automatically served when you sit down.
• At some casual places, you’ll order from a vending machine at the entrance and hand the ticket to the staff.
• Convenience stores (konbini) have surprisingly good food, but there’s an unspoken rule that you don’t eat while walking. Try to eat near the store if they have a bench or a small seating area.

🧳 Final Thoughts

Japanese dining etiquette is about being respectful, quiet, and clean. You don’t have to be perfect—just be open to learning and observing others. Personally, I loved how peaceful most dining experiences were, even in crowded places. It felt calm, organized, and respectful.

If you’re a first-time visitor to Japan, don’t stress too much about making a mistake. Just be aware, be polite, and enjoy the amazing food Japan has to offer.

Interested in more travel tips for Japan? Check out 50 Essential Pro Tips for First-Time Visitors to Japan!